All that glitters ISN’T gold. Consider silver – who you might think of as gold’s second cousin. Great for winter weddings? Sure. But also just plain stunning in every season for its shine. It pairs with almost anything whether you’re talking about silver wedding dresses or silver shoes for a wedding or bridal accessories or the cake! It’s not the metallic, after all; it’s how you use it. Consider the following:
There are flowers – pink roses, I think – in there somewhere but I can’t stop looking at that silver bouquet wrap! The brooches in the blooms are one thing but that wrap could be used on almost any style of bridal bouquet featuring a thick stem arrangement. You could get the same effect with a thinner wrap, too, so maybe sky’s the limit! Grab this one at LXdesigns on Etsy!
Of course, you could go whole hog (in the best way possible, of course) with a big, bold, and beautiful brooch bouquet that pairs silver settings with big luscious gems. The concept may not be making headlines anymore but I guarantee that it’ll be a showstopper in person. Buy it or one like it at Lilybuds Bouquets on Etsy!
In which case, skip the flowers for the groom and go straight for something a little less dazzling but no less eye-catching. This silver boutonniere swaps out feathers for flora making it perfect for guys with allergies and at weddings where the effects of high heat on flowers is a concern. Plus, this is a great way to do silver without getting too fussy.
These CZ earrings. Seriously. Put them on the bride or the bridesmaids and they’re equally amazing. Yes, they’re delicate but at 2.5″ long they have a presence that more than makes up for said delicacy.
Silver on bridesmaids? Again, there’s no reason to wait until wintertime to surround your besties in silver. Depending on the dress, they might even (gasp) wear it again. For example, check out this Alfred Sung dress:
It’s just cute enough for a wedding but no one would look at this Dupioni silk frock and think it’s seen a wedding or two in its time.
But back to the bride! On her, silver really shines. Especially on brides with dark hair, accessories like this floral styled bridal headband. I love all things delicate but there’s just something about a stand-out silver headpiece that knocks my socks off.
Silver from head to toe? Maybe not, but how about head to toe? If you love all things silver and simply must have it as part of your wedding day look but coordination is making that tough look no further than your feet for the solution. There are thousands of amazing silver bridal shoes out there for you to love!
Grooms get back in on the action with two shades of silver in one perfect tie. What’s not to love?
Now on to the silver wedding decor! You can give your wedding some serious sparkle with special touches like these letters from HollywoodRose on Etsy. Put them on the sweetheart table, the cake table, or anywhere, and then after you say “I do” put them on your mantle forevermore!
How about DIY silver wedding table decor? I see a jam jar, a juice bottle, a Coke bottle, and a few other easy to find and basically free things that some crafty bride-to-be probably hit with simple spray paint. You have to love that! A couple of succulents, greens, simple roses, and baby’s breath, and you have yourself a centerpiece!
And finally, the cake. Silver is not something you see on most wedding cakes but a primo wedding cake designer will have decorating options that go beyond those little balls. Silver sugar and even silver cake wraps can turn an ordinary white wedding cake into something extraordinary!
Are you loving all things silver right now? Share your favorite silver wedding finds here!
When it comes to bridal accessories one of the easiest mantras to remember is ‘pair like with like.’ And since strapless gowns are giving way to Grace Kelly inspired wedding dresses constructed with lace, lace, and more lace (ed. note: it’s about time) you had better believe that accessory designers are following suit. Lace and delicate bead and crystal patterns that mimic lace can be found on more than just veils – everything from bridal headbands to wedding invitation sets to wedding cake can now justly be described as lacey. Curious? Here are just some of the ways brides are wearing and using lace:
Think rustic means no lace? No way! Check out these amazing burlap and lace pew bows sold by Etsy seller PinkSlipInspiration:
The same goes for wedding invitations, like this one that pairs plain unbleached cardstock and pretty lace from Etsy seller TheWeddingInvitation:
Lace or the look of it can also be found in bridal headpieces like our very own Lacey Couture Pearl Headband:
Don’t forget – there are different kinds of lace! Our Angelic Lace Veil features gorgeous Venice lace:
It’s a heavy damask lace that usually features floral and leaf patterns – don’t you just love it?
Would you believe you can even find lace on brides’ feet? These are some of the most beautiful bridal shoes we’ve ever seen:
Not more gorgeous than this lace and jewel encrusted wedding gown, though:
Now about those wedding cakes we mentioned! Lace made out of icing? Yes, please:
Of course, you’ll need to find an amazing baker to make a lace wedding cake like this:
This lace bunting from Etsy seller The GlitteredBarn is simple and lovely and the kind of decor that makes a wonderful keepsake:
The same goes for this lace backdrop for your ceremony and pics:
Finally, check out this UH-mazing lace bridal bouquet wrap:
Tell us how you’re using lace in your wedding here!
Love cherries? Us, too. When we searched for cherry wedding inspiration, it’s not that surprising that cherry blossoms dominated. Who doesn’t love that gorgeous pale pink? But that’s not what we were looking for. We think it’s time to get BOLD with some totally saturated, gorgeous cherry red wedding inspiration that’ll knock your socks off. Ready? Here are six ways to incorporate cherry red into your wedding day:
A pop of color: You may be dressed all in white but that doesn’t mean you can’t add a pop of color to your wedding day ensemble in the form of a bridal jewelry set or an amazing pair of sunglasses.
Wrap your toes in red: Sunglasses too much? Then how about your bridal shoes? Wedding accessories are the perfect place to play with a little (or a lot) of color!
Your bridesmaids’ jewelry: In this red bridesmaid jewelry set the color of red ripe cherries isn’t the only inspiring thing. We love how the shape of the vivid pearls brings cherries to mind.
Or their dresses: Red bridesmaids’ dresses are amazing already- cherry red bridesmaids’ dresses? To die for. We’re not going to say they’ll ever wear them again but pick the right cut and they might!
A tasty treat: Cherry red is more than just a color when you use it as flavor inspiration for your reception meal or wedding cake. Great caterers will get creative when it comes to using cherry – think savory foods infused with this awesome flavor.
The cake: Not a fan of cherry? Bright red cherry blossoms – which, yes, isn’t the norm – on your cake will wow your guests.
Cherry red probably won’t be the dominant color in your wedding color scheme but it is literally one of the most beautiful accent colors there is. If you’re still looking for that perfect accent color, consider it!
Images via: Southbound Bride; The Wedding Library; Love My Dress UK
SO you’ve found a dress – or batch of bridesmaids’ dresses – that looks amazing on everyone from your best bestie to your big sister. Your ‘maids LOVE it. But if you think your work is done, think again. (Sorry, ladies.) Now it’s time to accessorize that perfect gown with some bridesmaid jewelry. Here are some tips to help you do just that:
Let the Dress Be Your Guide
You likely already know that necklaces should not hang down past necklines and bracelets seldom harmonize well with long sleeves, but the overall fanciness and style of your bridesmaids’ dresses can also help you choose jewelry and accessories. Very formal bridesmaids dresses demand bigger, bolder baubles.
Think of the Photos
Very ornate bridesmaid jewelry may not photograph particularly well when worn by a flock of identically dressed ‘maids. Some jewelry will look better in low light or candlelight while other pieces shine brightest in natural daylight.
Give Them a Little Freedom
Even if you don’t want to choose bridesmaid jewelry, you still have the final say when it comes to what your ladies will be wearing on your big day. You can dictate parameters. Crystal bridesmaid jewelry. A pearl wedding jewelry set. Colored bridesmaid jewelry. It’s your call, and having a few boundaries may actually make it easier for your bridesmaids to shop for their own accessories.
Keep It Simple
If you want to, that is. Bright dresses with something simple like a pair of understated stud earrings and a simple drop pendant necklace can make the bride, with her more ornate accessories, pop. Especially in the pictures. Bridesmaid jewelry can be barely there and still be impactful.
Or Go Big
Sometimes more is more, and your wedding day is not the day to stay small because you’re afraid of being too flashy. Flash away and let your bridesmaids do the same with big CZ sets or striking vintage look pieces that really stand out.
Make It a Gift
Your bridesmaids’ jewelry can be the gifts you give them to thank them for being a part of your big day, but in that case do your ladies a solid and choose something they can wear again (even if only for big events). They’ll appreciate not having yet another bridesmaids expense and you don’t have to worry about their jewelry. It’s win-win!
Are you letting your bridesmaids choose their own accessories or are you choosing for them?
Sometimes the utterly overwhelming range of options can put brides-to-be into a tailspin. Not only are their potentially hundreds of ceremony and reception venues to choose from, thousands of styles of crystal and pearl wedding jewelry, millions of wedding gowns, and an infinite number of cake flavor combinations, there are also the things brides need to pick for others. Even your wedding colors will impact your wedding VIPs!
One of the biggest for others picks a bride-to-be will make is the bridesmaids’ dresses because the bride is choosing clothing for other people – and clothing can be a pretty personal thing. The bridesmaid who feels less than body confident may prefer a very different dress than the bridesmaid who is a fitness instructor, for instance. The color that looks smashing on one washes another out. One finds strapless bridesmaids’ dresses flattering. Another thinks they’re immodest.
And so on and so forth.
Of course, the bride-to-be has final say over what the bridesmaids will wear just like she has final say over almost everything else. That doesn’t mean that she can’t do the kind thing and take her bridesmaids’ sizes, preferences, and personalities into account when choosing bridesmaids dresses. There is something to be said for good manners and there’s almost nothing more mannerly than making sure that the people who will celebrate your big day with you will be comfortable and happy and look their best.
If your bridesmaids are all very different people, this gets more difficult. Your options include simply making a final choice after taking everyone’s opinions and preferences into account, letting bridesmaids choose their own dresses in one color or color family, or choosing a designer and letting bridesmaids pick frocks from a particular collection in one specific color.
You may be surprised at how grateful your bridesmaids are that you’ve either given them even the chance to offer up some input or the full freedom to choose their own dresses. Never forget that letting someone else dress you can be a pretty scary thing.
Some brides have two or three close friends or sisters they love dearly and find it difficult, if not impossible, to select only one Maid of Honor or Matron of Honor. If that sounds like your situation, what’s the solution? Why not have two or even three women as your Maids of Honor or Matrons of Honor! Sure, it’s not the norm, but there are no written or unwritten rules that say you can’t go big or go home when it comes to naming your wedding attendants.
Here are some practical and etiquette tips that will help you navigate these uncharted waters:
* Try to divide the duties up so that no one feels left out! For instance, have one Maid of Honor hold the ring or your bouquet during the ceremony and another arrange your gown or you can have both of them arrange your gown.
* When it comes to choosing bridesmaids’ dresses, you can set your two MOHs apart in a different color or style or make things easier on everyone by allowing your bridal party to choose their own dresses in a specific color.
* Giving your multiplicity of MOHs special bridesmaid jewelry can set them apart from your other bridesmaids if you want to do that.
* Try to divide up the duties before the wedding, too, when it comes to who will help with flowers, invitations, favors, etc. Because everyone is so busy today, your Maids of Honor may actually find it helpful to not be responsible for some tasks.
* Or you can have your Maids of Honor share equally in everything, making every duty into a party. However, this can sometimes be a more difficult alternative for the bride to manage because there are then three schedules to work around instead of two.
* In your wedding program, list both or all your attendants as Maids or Matrons of Honor. Who should be listed first? This can be done alphabetically or by age. Some brides also choose to include a few special words in their program about why you chose more than one.
* As for who escorts both Maids of Honor back down the aisle after the ceremony, you can have the best man escort one on each arm if you’ll have an uneven number of wedding attendants, or they can simply walk with groomsmen in whatever order they’re standing at the altar.
Photo: KT Merry
So last week we talked about the cost of being a bridesmaid and for those who haven’t read the post I’ll just sum up by saying cha-ching! Standing with the bride while she says her “I dos” can get pretty pricey. The good news is that you don’t have to go broke without a fight – and by fight I mean a little creative thinking and maybe a heart to heart with the bride-to-be. Here’s how to (maybe) save money while being a bridesmaid:
1. Know the deal. When you’re hanging with your bestie and she pops the question, don’t beat around the bush when it comes to finding out what you’re in for. Is the bride expecting a Vegas weekend bachelorette bash? Does she have a dress in mind – or is she considering letting the maids choose? How many pre-wedding soirees will there be? Will you be expected to be at them all?
2. Tell it like it is. If you’re concerned about the cost of being a bridesmaid, know that the bride-to-be is probably more interested in your support than in having you spend a gajilliondollars. Probably. As we all know from reality TV there are plenty of so-not-cool brides out there. Let your friend know you’ll be working with a budget so she can help you save money.
3. Suggest mismatched maids. Besides being cool, mixed up bridesmaids dresses are also economical – especially when bridesmaids can pick their own frocks. If the bride-to-be is just not into that, then do her a solid and help her shop so you can steer her toward lower priced options.
4. Suggest combining pre-wedding parties. Co-ed bashes are pretty awesome and most brides I know have plenty of guy friends anyway, so why not combine the engagement party and shower? Or have a joint shower and bachelorette party if you think the bride’s family can handle things getting a little crazy.
5. Don’t complain; get creative. If you accept the position of bridesmaid, you kind of do have to go with what the bride wants when it comes to your dress and bridesmaid accessories. Act negative about it all and you may just get fired. Better: speak up when it comes to your budget and availability, suggest less expensive alternatives, and consider that you might not be the only bridesmaid freaking out about the big bill.
6. It’s okay to say no. When you’re really, really, really concerned about the cost of being a bridesmaid – as in, it’s the wedding or tuition – do the right thing and tell your bestie that you’d love to but you just can swing it right now. She’ll either pony up on your behalf if she’s in a position to do so or you two can commiserate together over margarita shooters. Win win for honesty!
Have you ever had to say no when a bride-to-be asked you to be her maid? Or are you a bride who’s worried about how much your wedding is going to cost your friends?
It’s no secret that saying yes when the bride-to-be asks you to be a bridesmaid means you’re on the hook for splashing out the cash in the months leading up to the wedding. What’s less well known is just how expensive being a bridesmaid can be! One reason for this is that what bridesmaids traditionally pay for varies by region – I’ve been to places in the US where it’s expected that the bride herself will foot the bill for her maids’ dresses and bridesmaid jewelry as well as cities where bridesmaids are expected to pay for just about everything, from hair and makeup to brunches to out-of-state girls’ weekends. In other words, what it costs to be a bridesmaid is ALL over the map.
But that doesn’t mean that the bridesmaid-to-be can’t look into how much she’s going to spend before all is said and done. Here is a list of the usual costs associated with being a bridesmaid:
Even if you’re not flying anywhere, you may still be doing plenty of driving when you factor in the dress shopping and the bridesmaid tea and the pre-wedding soirees. From home to venue and venue to home, assume you’ll be spending at least a couple of hundred bucks on gas alone. If you have to book flights and/or hotel rooms, adjust that figure accordingly.
The average cost of bridesmaid dresses is $150 and that’s on the low end of things nowadays. This is, of course, an inescapable cost – even if the bride-to-be is a sweetie and letting her maids choose their own dresses. In that case, you can keep costs down by shopping solo, but don’t forget to consider the cost of alterations (if necessary) and undies. And woe unto the budget-loving bridesmaid whose bestie chooses a $500 frock!
The nicest brides do their maids a solid and grab everyone’s accessories while letting them wear their own shoes. Nice brides choose bridesmaid accessories and shoes, expecting the bridal party to pony up, but she keeps them budget friendly. Which, in this case, means $150 or under. You know your friend – if you think you will be obligated to buy jewelry and shoes you cannot afford think carefully about whether to accept her invitation to be in the wedding party. It’s okay to say no.
Hair, Nails, and Beauty
Expect to spend $100+ if the bride-to-be is expecting you to join your fellow maids in getting matching manicures, updos, and airbrushed makeup. Yes, going out for a spa day is the bomb, but not so much if you’re going to go broke in the process. Sometimes the bride or her family will foot the bill but not always.
These days there is no telling how many parties you’ll be responsible for hosting but no matter what the number there’s a good chance you’re going to be expected to pay for your share of the food, favors, décor, invitations, and venue. The average cost for bridesmaids in this area tends to be about $50 per host per party – so multiply accordingly and expect that the bachelorette party could cost a lot more.
A thousand dollars to be a bridesmaid?! Probably not, but maybe. And if you have that money to spend, awesome. But if you don’t you need to either decline the invitation to be a bridesmaid – graciously, of course – or have a frank discussion with your bride-to-be bestie about the intersection between bridesmaidom and your budget.
Paloma wrote in to ask:
I’m so sick of thinking about my bridesmaids’ dresses! I’ve been dreading having to make a decision about anything. I can’t even decide on a color! Can you help?
I get it.
Choosing bridesmaids dresses can mean the best day out with your girls ever… or a nightmare of scrolling through pages and pages of dresses because you have no idea how you’re going to choose between the kerjillions of gowns out there. Seriously, today’s brides-to-be have a ton of options, and that many choices doesn’t always make deciding on a color scheme or style easy.
Once upon a time, it was easier. Every bridesmaid wore the same satin dress with dyed to match shoes in a shade determined by the bride’s bouquet of silk roses. Matchy-matchy was IN and it was so simple once you had your wedding colors. But now? Plenty of brides are still opting for matching gowns on their ‘maids (without the dyed shoes, thank goodness), but there are lots of other ways to dress a bridal party.
For instance, you could:
- Pick a color or even a palette of colors, and let bridesmaids choose any bridesmaids dresses in that palette from a designer like Dessy bridesmaids dresses. Some brides will give ground rules, like no strapless dresses or full length, but some let their ‘maids take the lead.
- Put together a set of guidelines, like cocktail length… jewel tones or pastels… strapless… polka dots… Grecian… whatever. Then let bridesmaids shop for bridesmaids dresses they love that fit into your criteria.
- Pick a pattern. When letting bridesmaids pick their own dresses, this option is for only the most laid back brides, since ‘florals’ might mean different things to different people. But brides can also choose a series of patterned dresses and ask their ‘maids to decide who will wear which dress.
- Really consider what gowns will look best on what brides and create a palette of not just colors, but also girlfriends. You pick not only colors, but also dresses – and then assign those dresses to individual bridesmaids. This works best for laid back bridesmaids.
Is it any wonder brides-to-be can get frazzled over frocks for the bridal party?
The best advice I can give you if you’re starting to consider just go matchy-matchy even though you’ve never loved that look is to browse tons and tons of pics. The more bridesmaids dresses you look at – and I mean just look at, no pressure because this should be fun – the more confident you’ll be when it comes to actually making a choice. And loving that choice! Don’t rush it, think creatively, and remember that whatever you pick, your besties will adore it.
Going gray isn’t something to be ashamed of… when you’re choosing wedding colors, that is. Nor is it something to worry about when it comes to hair, but I’m here to talk about bridesmaids dresses, not aging gracefully. And hey, I don’t judge.
What makes gray great? I say it’s a neutral that has some flair. Think gunmetal or silver or the palest gray that’s the exact color of a sky after a storm. Soft or dramatic. These are the sophisticated shades that make a bride’s white dress pop. Black can do the same, but we all know it feels a little prom-esque. Gray is elegant without inviting comparisons to funerals… galas… or yes, proms.
Sorry. I love black bridesmaid dresses. I really do. But sometimes they can feel like a little much.
Gray, on the other hand, can be coordinated with almost every bouquet color because it’s a neutral. And it practically doubles the chances that the dress will be worn again, which is apparently today’s gold standard for any gown designed for ‘maids. It’s particularly wonderful when what you’re going for is a more formal, but also modern look. Think sheer asymmetrical straps or an updated Grecian look.
Finally, gray is – dare I say it? – a universally flattering color. Scratch that. What I mean to say is there are so many shades of gray that you can outfit ‘maids of all skin tones without leaving one poor girl looking sallow and drab. Such is the power of gray!