Hey ladies? This one is for the guys, so feel free to zoom right past it and browse our pearl wedding jewelry new arrivals instead or to pass it on to your groom-to-be so he can share it with his buddies. Guys, regardless of how you got to this post, read on!
So you’ve been recruited into the wedding party by your brother, your college roommate, or your best friend. Whether you’re psyched for the chance to support him or totally nervous because you’re worried about screwing something up, you said yes to being a groomsman and now you’ve got to deliver. The question you may be asking yourself is – beyond planning the bachelor party – what exactly do the groomsmen do? It’s a good question, and one that most guys can answer without a little googling. Luckily, we’ve created a guy-friendly game plan to help you make your buddy’s engagement and wedding super memorable.
As groomsman, your main mission, should you choose to accept it, is to facilitate a smooth, stress-free wedding experience. Lucky for you, you’re not on the hook for the kind of crafty stuff and shopping trips that the bridesmaids have agreed to take part in. But that doesn’t mean you don’t have anything on your plate. You are responsible for:
- Giving the groom plenty of moral support before and during the wedding
- Buying or renting the required wedding day attire
- Helping plan whatever pre-wedding parties the groom wants
- Ushering the guests and answering their questions before and during the ceremony
- Escorting the bridesmaid assigned to you down the aisle
That’s it? That’s it. If you’re curious as to why bridesmaids might feel a little resentful, look up a list of bridesmaids duties some time. You also have a lot less to pay for. You’ll be paying for:
- The rental or purchase of a tux or suit
- Travel expenses (if the wedding is out of town)
- A wedding gift for the couple
- Your part of the bachelor party
Sounds doable, but keep in mind that some bachelor parties involve air travel, luxe accommodations, and three-day weekends away – the groomsmen will often foot the bill for the groom’s food and drink. Being a groomsman can get expensive, depending on what kind of wedding the couple is planning.
Still not sure how this is all going to go down? Here are some tips to help you be a great groomsman:
On the actual wedding day, arrive at the site an hour early.
As an usher you should have a list or have gone over the seating plan with the bride and groom prior to the wedding. This way you will be able to smoothly escort all the guests to their seats.
Sometimes the groomsmen escort the bridesmaids down the aisle and other times the groomsmen will enter the church (or other ceremony location) with the best man and groom. Ask what you’ll be doing.
Whether you escort the bridesmaids to the alter or not, the groomsmen usually escort the bridesmaids down the aisle following the exit of the bride and groom.
Formal pictures of the bridal party are usually taken between the wedding and the reception. Some couples will do photos before the ceremony to make day run more smoothly. Groomsmen must be present for these but all you need to do is smile!
At the wedding reception, your groomsmen’s duties are basically over. You may still be the go-to guy for guests’ questions, though.
Usually there is a dance for the wedding party and groomsmen are expected to dance with the bridesmaids. You should also probably get one dance with the bride (it’s good luck!).
If the groom is going to toss the bridal garter and you’re single, be a good sport and try to catch it. No pressure 🙂
The rest of the night is your own to enjoy and to celebrate! Have fun!