Tips for Choosing Your Wedding Party

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Wouldn’t you just love it if you could have 14 bridesmaids and invite everyone you love and like to be in your wedding party? Sure, but we’d still say you need to choose your attendants carefully! Not every friend or relative will be a perfect – or practically perfect – attendant. You especially want your maid of honor and bridesmaids to be:

RELIABLE

‘Must have attributes include showing up for fittings and activities when they are scheduled and being on time for the rehearsal and the ceremony! ‘Nice to haves’ include there for you when you need shopping help or ready to drop everything and fold programs at the drop of a hat.

ACCOMMODATING

Able to wear bridesmaid jewelry and dresses that may not be their ideal choice and NOT complain! Honestly, it’s one day out of their lives, and if they’re not willing to wear the uniform then they’re going to have more fun as a wedding guest anyway.

HELPFUL

Willing to help out with any wedding details, errands, shopping, and things like putting together favors. Within reason, that is. Your bridesmaids are not hired help and are not actually responsible for stuffing envelopes. Many ‘maids will graciously accept any burden put upon them but please be nice and don’t hijack their lives in the name of your wedding.

More tips for choosing bridesmaids:

When choosing the members of your wedding party, pick friends and/or family members that you are close with NOW. You may want to ask an old college roommate that you haven’t seen in a while, but don’t feel obligated to include people just because you were a bridesmaid in her wedding. Ditto for anyone you wish you had a relationship with – your mean future sister-in-law will not magically become your friend just because you ask her to be a bridesmaid.

If you’re on a tight budget, try to LIMIT the number of attendants. This will reduce your costs in more ways than one! It will reduce your flower bill (bridesmaid’s bouquets can be expensive); the number of attendant gifts that you’ll have to purchase; the cost of a bridesmaids luncheon and rehearsal dinner and you’ll need a smaller limo; and more.

Be conscious that others may be on a budget, too. You may want to look at bridesmaids dresses first and set a budget for the dress, shoes and other accessories that THEY will be required to pay for. Then you can let your prospective bridesmaids know a realistic budget of what they will need to pay to be a bridesmaid in your wedding BEFORE you ask them to accept.

If you are asking bridesmaids who live out of town, be sure to take into consideration the travel and lodging expenses when figuring the projected “bridesmaid budget”.

When choosing your wedding attendants – remember that you don’t necessarily need to have the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. Bridesmaids can walk down the aisle together in pairs, alone or two bridesmaids can be escorted by one groomsman.

How many male attendants will my fiance need to pick? The rule of thumb is… there should be one usher for every 50 guests. The average wedding party for formal or semi-formal is four to six bridesmaids and users. Also, keep in mind a bride does not need as many bridesmaids as ushers. Having a mismatched set of wedding attendants is okay!


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20 Ways to Panic-Proof Your Wedding Day

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Here’s a piece of truth every bride- and groom-to-be should memorize and internalize: something will go wrong on your wedding day. It just will. Hopefully it’s something small and entirely inconsequential, but rest assured there will be something. Best case, your attendants will make sure you never see it happen. Worst case, it’s your problem to fix. In any case, there are plenty of things you can do to make sure that your chances of having a big issue are slim. Here are 20 ways to panic-proof your big day:

1. Tell wedding vendors providing you services exactly what your requirements are. Put everything in writing and make sure your wedding vendors sign the agreement. Be sure to specify items you don’t want as well (e.g., racy rap songs, too many posed photos, onion dip, and whatever else you don’t want).
2. Two or three days before the wedding, call all your wedding vendors and verify your bookings. Have them read back to you the time, date, and location of the wedding as they have it noted as well as the services or items they’ll be providing. That way, you’ll know if they have the right information. Make sure they know how to get to the site. It’s a good idea to send a reminder letter as well. Bring your list of phone numbers so someone can make a phone call if they don’t show up.
3. Avoid asking friends or family to provide food, flowers, or official photography. It will create an awkward situation if you’re not pleased with the results. It’s easier to expect perfection from someone being paid rather than a favorite uncle whose feelings may be hurt if you complain about his photography. He probably also doesn’t have a spare camera to bring along if his breaks or an assistant to fill in if he catches the flu and can’t make it.
4. Never let a friend serve as a bartender. He may pour too much liquor which could quickly deplete a limited supply, run up the bill, or get guests too drunk. He might also get drunk, or leave the bar unattended to socialize.
5. Avoid heavy cake tops or too many tiers. These can make the cake unstable – trust your cake designer who will give you the right advice.
6. Protect your wedding dress. Never iron it or attempt any kind of touch up on wedding dresses. If it is badly wrinkled, contact the bridal shop for pressing. Do not eat, drink, or smoke after putting the gown on. Do not apply makeup and keep away from pets. If you’re traveling to the wedding in your gown, avoid exiting the car near dirt or bushes. (Tell your bridesmaids to follow the same tips with their bridesmaids dresses.)
7. When you get your wedding dress, practice putting it on, walking, turning, and moving like you will during the ceremony. Get a feel for how the dress moves and how much extra time you’ll need to handle the train.
8. Avoid having children under age three in the wedding party unless their parents are bridesmaids or groomsmen. If you do, let one of the attendants walk with the child or pair them with an older child.
9. Secure fake rings to the ring pillow so they won’t fall off as the ring bearer walks to the altar. Have the Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man carry the real ones.
10. Make sure someone knows of any plans to use alternate entrances to the ceremony space (side doors, back doors) so they won’t be locked out for the ceremony. That person can work with the ushers to direct others.
11. Accompany the bridesmaids to their fittings to make sure the dresses are not altered to be too short, too loose, or too tight.
12. Advise out of town members of the wedding party to arrive early on the day before the wedding so you don’t run the risk of missing or delaying the rehearsal.
13. Have attendants arrive early to get dressed so there is no delay when the photographer arrives and no worry about making the wedding on time. Make sure there is plenty of time for hair and makeup.
14. Have a spare tape recorder, batteries, and extra tape in case the one you’re planning to use to record the vows acts up.
15. Get your marriage license application in advance of the ceremony and have it with you on the wedding day. You don’t want to discover on your wedding day that you aren’t licensed to be married!
16. Have someone assigned to take care of the last minute details and ensure the bridal party is dressed and ready to go. She can answer the phone, go on errands, and make sure everyone has something to eat before the wedding.
17. Practice driving the route to the ceremony at the time of day and day of week to check out traffic patterns. That way you’ll know how much time you’ll need to get to the site.
18. Bring along an emergency bag. Include a needle and thread, safety pins, nail polish, hairpins, and extra panty hose. Also tuck in a couple of cookies and some hard candy in case someone needs a quick pickup.
19. Try not to stay up late the night before the wedding. Avoid drinking too much alcohol or caffeine so you’ll be at your best all day.
20. If something goes wrong, don’t panic. You’ll probably be the only one who notices that the ribbons in the bridesmaids’ bouquets are the wrong color. Don’t let little things ruin your day. Accept the idea that your wedding may not (and in fact, probably will not) go as planned. Always keep your sense of humor!

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Brides: How NOT to Faint at the Altar

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Many brides and also some grooms fear that they will faint once they are standing at the altar. And yes, it does happen, but it’s still pretty rare. That’s because most people aren’t prone to fainting – the brides, grooms, bridesmaids, and groomsmen who do faint often do so because of nerves or because they’ve been neglecting to eat or skipping meals on purpose. We have all the sympathy in the world for anyone who has a medical issue that causes fainting but when it comes to the overzealous dieters, we say EAT! You need energy to get married!

Here are a ton of great tips to keep in mind as you plan your wedding, just in case you do feel you might just “keel” over at the altar or on the dance floor:

  • The night before the wedding, pack smelling salts and give them to your officiant, maid of honor or best man. Make sure they will be close in case you need them.
  • The day of the wedding, avoid eating very heavy meals but do eat lightly throughout the day. In any case, make sure you eat ENOUGH. Don’t try to lose those last few pounds on your wedding day.
  • Eat chicken or fish, cold salads, cheese and crackers, toast, scrambled eggs, bagels, and lightly seasoned pasta dishes (avoiding spicy tomato sauces because of the risk of heartburn) like pasta in light olive oil with veggies.
  • Avoid gas-producing foods such as beans, cauliflower and broccoli. Obviously.
  • This may sound crazy, but eating salty foods like popcorn, potato chips and salty pretzels an hour before your wedding will help you to retain water, eliminating the urge to have to go to the bathroom.
  • When standing, never lock your knees and stand with your legs apart even with your shoulders, knees relaxed.
  • Request chairs or a place to sit at the altar be provided so that if you do feel overcome with dizziness, you will be able to sit.
  • Take advantage of the prayers. Bend your head and breath slowly and deeply inhaling and exhaling to a slow, mental count of 7.
  • Lean on your fiancé if you must.
  • Dress for the season. If you are marrying in the colder months, do not wear a summer gown. You should feel comfortable. If you are marrying in the warmer months, avoid heavy under clothes such as crinolines and petticoats.
  • Your dress should fit you comfortably, not too tight.
  • Choose a gown with short or no sleeves (if your Officiant allows). If you must choose a gown with sleeves, make sure they are loosely fitted, lacy or illusion material. Make sure your dress lets you “breath”.
  • Choose shoes that will let you stand comfortably and do make sure they are broken in. If you must, take them to a shoemaker and have them stretched so that they aren’t binding on your wedding day.
  • Avoid heavy scents and perfumes, which are overly sweet smelling. They can overcome your senses and make you feel nauseous if you are dizzy.
  • Have water available and close by.
  • If you do feel that none of this is helping, simply whisper to your Officiant that you feel faint and have him/her seat you and your bridal party.
  • Ask to bring in fans if air circulation or air conditioning is a problem.
  • Relaxing is the most important thing you can do to avoid fainting during your wedding.
  • Before walking down the aisle, you may find that a short “loosening up” is in order. Shake your arms and legs and do a few head and neck rolls. You may look funny, but it helps.


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Yes or No: Doing Your Own Bridal Hair on Your Wedding Day

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Thinking of doing your own bridal hairstyle on your wedding day? Then we have three words for you: practice, practice, practice. Even if you’re used to doing your own hair. And especially if you want to try a new style! To start, you’ll want to have your bridal hair accessories ready to go and plenty of weeks or even months in which to do trial runs of your ‘do. Here are six tips for DIY brides from Gretchen Maurer, creator of Weddinghair.com:

1. Time your practice session and make a list of all of the tools and products you will need. You need to be 100% sure you can create the bridal hairstyle you want, including the insertion of any bridal hair accessories, in the time you’ll have.

2. Put everything in a basket and hide it away to bring out fresh and ready for your special day. Don’t try to substitute out products on the big day – use exactly what you tested in your practice sessions.

3. Schedule times for showers if you will be having relatives stay over. Make sure your bathroom needs take priority if you’re going to be sharing.

4. If you are not dressing at home make sure there is a mirror and a counter or table to work from. Take a tour of the ceremony facility to figure out exactly where you’ll be doing your wedding hair.

5. Make sure there are proper outlets – if not bring an extension cord. And bring extas of everything (e.g., hairpins), just in case.

6. Put on all of your pretty under things and cover up with a button down shirt or robe. This way after hair and makeup are done you can just slip into your gown instead of having to wiggle out of a t-shirt without mussing your hair.

Now you tell us: Would you do your own wedding day hairdo?


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Wedding Etiquette and Buying the Mother of the Bride Dress

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If you’re like a lot of brides, you probably thought you’d be the one calling your mom to ask her the questions… and then it came time for mom to buy her Mother of the Bride dress. Suddenly, your cell is ringing off the hook because she has questions about colors. Styles. What your fiance’s mom is wearing! It’ll drive you bonkers if you let it, but remember that she’s only asking so many questions because she wants you to love her dress as much as she loves yours. Sweet, right?

Here are our tips for buying a mother of the bride dress that you can share with your mom as she she shops for the perfect one:

1. While it is important to allow your mother and future mother-in-law to pick a style they both feel comfortable in, what they choose needs to at the very least be appropriate. And you get to choose what that means (e.g., no strapless, no plunging necklines, no mini dresses, etc.).

2. Tradition holds that the mother of the bride chooses her dress first, followed by the mother of the groom. Their dresses should complement each other, as well as the bridal party. That’s so they’ll look their best in posed photos.

3. Having one mother in a floor length dress and another in a cocktail length skirt is a major no-no. Likewise, your mother wearing an orange dress next to your bridesmaid’s light green ensembles is bound to make your wedding pictures look kind of gross.

4. While the moms shouldn’t be wearing the exact same style and color a la matching bridesmaids dresses, their dresses should coordinate.

5. Generally, at formal weddings, your mother and mother-in-law should be in floor or tea-length dresses. Semi-formal or informal weddings allow them to get more creative with the length, but they still need to make sure they are complementing one another.

6. Unless your bridesmaids will be wearing black, a mother of the bride or groom should avoid this color. Until recently, black at weddings was considered a social blunder and many guests will still look at the color choice with suspicion. Are they like, mourning, or something?

7. Don’t forget to finish the look with a matching corsage or a small bouquet to honor your moms and ensure they feel special on your big day!

 


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Wedding Garters: Steeped in Tradition

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Bridal garters might seem like a somewhat outdated and far-from-essential wedding accessory, but this is one wedding tradition that actually boasts roots in truly ancient customs. Brides and grooms in more cultures than one would toss items of clothing at rowdy guests to avoid being ransacked by revelers as they made their exit. Whoever snagged pieces of the newlywed’s clothing would be blessed with good luck!

Today, it’s slightly less common to see the groom tossing the wedding garter over his shoulder at the reception, but the tradition isn’t going anywhere any time soon. The right time to buy your wedding garter — if you plan to wear one — is any time after you’ve chosen your wedding gown and your wedding colors. That way, if you want to coordinate fabrics or colors, you can.

Tips for Choosing Your Bridal Garter

Though bridal garters come in every possible color, pattern, and material, many brides opt to have their garters be their “something blue.” If you’re planning to do just that, don’t limit yourself to common hues like baby or Tiffany blue. Consider a wedding garter made of deep navy, cornflower, or Majorelle blue fabric.

Wedding garters are commonly made of beautiful feminine materials like satin, organza, lace, Swarovski crystals, pearls, and delicate ribbon, but why not think outside the box? These days, brides can choose garters featuring everything from sports teams logos to animal prints to vintage charms.

Finally, if your new husband is going to toss the garter at the reception and your garter is just too pretty (or meaningful) to give away, don’t forget to buy a tossing garter. These are wedding garters that are as pretty as, but usually less expensive than, your main garter. Sometimes garter sets will include a matching tosser.

But that said, consider that a lot of singletons are committed these days and don’t necessarily have plans to marry. The reason the toss is falling out of favor is because it turns out a lot of people just don’t like being paraded in front of a crowd of wedding guests! So our advice? Wear a gorgeous garter under your even more gorgeous gown, and let your new husband remove it in private 😉


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10 Real World Tips to Combat Wedding Stress

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Many times, brides and grooms experience different kinds of stress. Brides are usually more emotional about wedding planning and grooms can be more concerned about – or just plain stressed out – about money. Whether you are a bride or a groom, though, there is plenty to worry about! Will the vendors show up? Will I like my dress? Will I love my wedding jewelry? Will the photographs turn out? Will guests like the reception dinner? Will people dance? Can we afford this? Is our venue still available? It’s enough to drive you crazy!

But wait. Stop. Breathe. Stressing out about wedding planning is not inevitable and if you’re already stressing out, it’s something you can work on. Contrary to popular belief – and reality TV – you do not have to spend every day of your engagement freaking out. Promise. Just re-read these tips for combating wedding planning stress and guaranteeing a happy wedding day whenever you feel yourself start to lose it:

1. Expect that there will be stress in planning your wedding. Why? There are a lot of decisions to be made, many details to be worked out, and others may want, or try to influence you. That is not bad or wrong, it just requires that you and your fiancé be aware of what is really happening. Try to respond to issues and avoid reacting to things.

2. One of the greatest challenges facing brides and grooms is their feelings of wanting to satisfy everyone. There are so many people involved – family, friends and relatives. Setting realistic expectations is very important.

3. Don’t expect perfection. Expect a terrific day. Expect to marry your sweetheart and have a good time with the people you love and that’s it. Setting expectations that are too high will create stress and lead to frustration, and then more stress.

4. Feeling stressed about certain elements of the wedding such as, saying your wedding vows or your first dance? Then, visualize the event. Spend some quiet time alone, relax and really visualize in your mind the events going smoothly. Do this exercise several times a day if you need to!

5. One of the best ways to combat stress is to exercise. When things start getting out of control – STOP. Take a break and go to the gym or go for a brisk walk.

6. There are always some people (relatives or friends) that know how to “push your buttons”. When you are feeling very stressed… be sure to stay away from or at least limit your time with these people.

7. Wedding planning can cause a great deal of stress between the bride and the groom. Individually, they should be aware of their thresholds for stress, and how much stress they can handle in a given time period. If you notice that one of you is nearing your “threshold”, then take a short break from your wedding planning and do something fun together.

8. Parents can also experience wedding stress as their children get married and leave “the nest”. This is commonly referred to as “separation anxiety”. It can be a time of great anxiety for the parents which can then create stress and highly emotional issues for the bride and groom. Being aware of what is happening, REALLY happening, is a big part of dealing and managing stress.

9. Time pressure can cause a great deal of stress. Don’t try and do everything yourself. Delegate as much as you can to others. Use the Internet.

10. Are you and your fiancé arguing more than normal? Realize that this is normal because you are spending more time on wedding planning versus spending time on your relationship. That’s why it is so important to take time away from wedding planning and spend time with each other. A romantic dinner, a bike ride — whatever you both like to do together (just don’t discuss the wedding plans!)


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Creating a DIY Wedding Reception Bar

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If you’re planning your wedding reception at a location where you’ll be the one making the bar arrangements, it can be a mind boggling task. And if you’re planning to set up a DIY reception bar where you’ll be responsible for everything, it’s even worse. You may be blindsided by questions like:

* How much liquor should you buy?
* What kind do you buy?
* Can you return the unopened liquor?

Yikes, right? But figuring out the answers is worth it if you have the ability to stock your own bar because DIYing it can save you lots of money! Here are some great tips we’ve found for brides-to-be and grooms who are creating their own wedding reception bars or working with an outside distributor to bring bar drinks to an otherwise dry reception space:

1. Choose a reputable company that will consult with you and help you select the right wines, champagne, etc. for your guest list and menu. In addition, be sure they don’t charge for delivery and most importantly, that they will credit you for any unopened wine and spirits.

2. Think about your guests, are they beer, wine, or hard liquor drinkers? This will help you to determine quantities. Remember, the choice is up to you as to what you serve. Maybe you want to have a cocktail reception with just beer and wine. Maybe you want to serve a specialty drink like a Mimosa or Bloody Mary for a early afternoon reception.

3. If you’re having a champagne toast, find out if the guests will see the champagne being poured. If not, it’s a good place to save some money by selecting an inexpensive brand, since most people just sip for the toast! It may enable you to spend a bit more on the wines you’ll be serving with dinner.

4. Set a budget for liquor. A good liquor company will work with you to stay within your means. There are thousands of wine choices at different price points, so you can find one to fit your budget. In addition, you can choose between “top shelf” liquors or “house pour” liquors (i.e. Absolut vs. Smirnoff).

5. When trying to determine how much to buy, you should ask the company you select to provide the alcohol, to make recommendations and help you to determine the appropriate amounts.

6. Be creative – instead of offering your wedding guests the typical run of beers, try to include some of the newer micro-brewed beers. You can still offer the old stand-by’s for those guests who are committed to “their” brands, but you’ll be pleasantly surprised by the feedback you’ll receive on being somewhat adventuresome!

7. Consider an international coffee bar during the dessert hour. If you do, you’ll want to be sure to serve Kahlua, Bailey’s, Tia Maria, Grand Marnier and other cordials that your guests will enjoy with coffee.

8. Check into liquor liability coverage. Does your caterer provide coverage? If so, find out how much. You may find that the hall carries some coverage and it will be important to determine their role.

The best part about putting together your own DIY wedding reception bar is that you can save a tremendous amount of money! Brides and grooms can keep their costs low, often under $5 per person for the entire evening! Not bad when you consider what it would cost at a hotel!


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Tips for an Amazing Christmas Wedding or Winter Wedding

Planning a wedding for the holiday season can be a lot of fun. There are so many locations already decorated perfectly for a Christmas wedding or winter wedding, for one, so you can take advantage of the free ambiance to make an enchanted wedding to remember. That’s not the only reason to plan a holiday wedding, however. If you’ve always adored Christmas, it does make a great theme. And winter weddings? It’s a no-brainer – off-peak wedding planning can save you a bundle!

Below, we’ve put together some Christmas and winter wedding planning tips that’ll help you create an amazing ceremony and reception.

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* Your wedding dress should reflect the joy of the season. A deep red or green velvet cape is a wonderful garment to toss over your shoulders for the reception or on your way to the ceremony. A candlelight or even ivory color dress appears much more dramatic at ceremonies illuminated with candles or soft twinkle lights. Tuxedos are perfect for evening weddings – look into tails for these formal affairs. For a daytime wedding, strollers and waistcoats are more appropriate.

* Floral arrangements can include the flowers of the season – poinsettias, roses, and ivy blend with the greenery adorning the ceremony and reception sites. Your bouquet might include deep red or ivory roses in a bed of trailing ivy. Boutonnieres could be made of a single rose or even a sprig of pine with a small cone. If you’re getting married in a church, ask them what sort of decorations will already be up and plan your colors around their color scheme!

* Greenery is an inexpensive way to add aroma and atmosphere to the ceremony and reception. Drape boughs of pine, holly, ivy, or other greens over doorways, mantelpieces, windows, and the altar. Fill baskets with greenery and pine cones and place near the doorways or at the base of stairways for simple decorations with an aromatic impact. Tall vases filled with white pine cones and bare boughs painted white draped with lights can look amazing. Don’t forget festive colored towels in the powder rooms.

* Your ceremony should reflect your personal beliefs. The holidays are a time of religious significance, and you may want to have a traditional ceremony in your faith. Talk with your pastor about what traditional elements you want to include in your holiday wedding. Some traditional holiday music helps to set the mood. You could have your guests sing carols while they are waiting for the ceremony to begin – though that might not be every family’s cup of tea.

* Your reception can be anything from a few light snacks to a full-blown dinner. For a lighthearted reception, serve hot cocoa and snack foods while you have a holiday sing-along. With your guests already in the holiday mood, it won’t take much for this reception to turn into a long-lasting memory for you and your guests.

* A more reserved reception would be lovely as a sit down dinner with ballroom dancing afterward. Serve traditional holiday foods – roast turkey, ham, or beef with the usual side dishes found on holiday tables. You could also serve something out of character for the season such as chicken or pork, or even elegant French and Mediterranean cuisine but with a wintery twist.

* For favors, find small stockings and write your initials with glitter. Place a tiny tree at each place setting with the names of the guests written on ribbon banners wrapped around the base. Get your bridesmaids together and have a paper snowflake party. Use them to decorate the reception site and perhaps as toppings for small silver cake boxes.

* A sleigh ride away from your reception makes a grand exit, and is the cue for your guests to shower you with bubbles or birdseed. If no snow is available a carriage ride in a wintry white carriage is just as romantic!

* When you plan your bridal ensemble, think snow… silver… Santa… red… We love white gowns with red sashes – it’s a classic look that’s never out of style. How about a satin bridal coat with faux ermine trim around the cuffs and collar? Want more color, then opt for red wedding jewelry instead of more traditional crystal wedding jewelry. Red bridal shoes can also offer a pop of color!


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10 Things NOT to Do Before Your Wedding

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We usually focus on the wedding “dos” here at USABride because our intent is to encourage, not discourage. But for every do there is a don’t and some don’ts are more important than others. You’ll never hear us parrot silly no-nos like never pair black and brown or never let the groom see you before the ceremony because we’re not about criticizing any bride’s style or traditions. We have picked up some solid wedding planning tips over time, however, and today we’re going to share some of the things we tell brides-to-be to avoid doing as they get closer and closer to the big day.

  1. Don’t start your wedding planning without a budget. One of the most stressful elements to wedding planning usually is money. Make sure you decide up front how much your total wedding budget is going to be and who will be contributing and how much.
  2. Don’t spend more than your budget or what you can afford. Your wedding day is an important day, but it is only one day. You don’t want to start your new life together by going into serious debt from your wedding expenses and being strapped with that debt for the next five years.
  3. Don’t rely upon oral agreements with wedding vendors. Get everything in writing!
  4. Don’t try and do everything yourself. Planning a wedding can be a full time job in itself. So don’t try and take on such an enormous project alone, delegate as much as you can! When it comes to weddings, everyone loves to help – let them!
  5. Don’t insist on having it your way all the time! Come to an agreement on the things that are less important. For instance, you have the ultimate say when it comes to your bridal accessories, but may have to give some ground when it comes to the ceremony music.
  6. Don’t skimp on your photography. Your wedding day goes by so fast, and after it’s over, all you’ll have left is your memories and your pictures. If there’s a photo who’s out of your budget range, ask if he or she can do an abbreviated session, like all of the ceremony but only part of the reception.
  7. Don’t get crazy over every detail. It can really take the pleasure out of the wedding planning process. I mean, will it really matter that the ribbons for the favors are baby blue instead of ice blue?
  8. Don’t forget to thank everyone involved in your wedding and those that gave you gifts. Also, don’t let those thank you notes pile up. Send them out promptly after you receive a gift.
  9. Don’t overload yourself the day before your wedding. This is not the time to put together 200 favors. Try to do only one or two small tasks and leave the rest of the day to relax and pamper yourself. You need some time to unwind from the rigors of wedding planning before the big day. Try to make the week before your ceremony and reception fun!
  10. Don’t expect perfection for your wedding day. Expect a “terrific” day and set reasonable expectations. Never forget, the main goal is to get married.

Can you think of any other pre-wedding don’ts?


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