Wedding Shower Themes and Shower Gift Ideas

Theme Showers

When hosting a theme shower, be sure that theme of the shower is explained clearly in the invitation. Then, use the theme throughout the shower when choosing decorations, favors and even refreshments.

Wine Tasting Theme

All of the guests brought their favorite bottle of wine and we served fruit and crackers and cheese for the appetizers, everyone loved it. We also had all the guests write down their “recipe for a happy marriage” on recipe cards and put them in a recipe box for the bride. As a favor to the bride we also had everyone self-address an envelope, we drew one of the envelopes at the end of the shower for a door prize. And – the bride had her thank you notes already addressed.

Garden Shower

The centerpieces were watering cans filled with flowers and gardening tools. The favors were a pair of gardening gloves with a packet of flower seeds.


I had a Brunch in my backyard. I put white lights on all the shrubs and trees. I scattered rose petals on table. Also, I typed up and framed cute sayings, quotes, and stories about marriage and put one on each table. The bride got to take these home to use the frames as she wished. Instead of the traditional shower cake, I made ice cream pies with a chocolate mint sauce to serve as dessert.

Holiday Shower

Because my fiancé and I have been together for 5 years, there is little that we need for our home. My bridesmaids came up with the idea of a HOLIDAY shower. Each guest was assigned a specific holiday (ie…Christmas, Halloween, Thanksgiving, Easter) and were asked to be creative and either get a gift directly related to the holiday or something in the style or colors (ex: pastel sheets, towels, or brightly colored candles, picture frames).

We did a Sunday (11:30am) brunch idea with mini muffins, egg bake ideas, champagne and orange juice, and fruit salad. This way people wouldn’t have to take a large portion of their afternoon and it’s early enough (all the packer fans could get home in time to enjoy the game!!)

Something for the Groom
Kyra, Longview, WA

Have all the guests bring a tool for the husband to be and the host of the party buys the tool box and you all fill it and when he comes to pick up his bride to be from the party he has a gift there for him.

Hearts Theme

My shower theme was hearts because I love hearts. For decorations, we had balloons attached to a vase with sunflowers in them, and heart confetti on the table. I also had a photo album in which everyone was sent a page and decorated them with pictures and poems. It was so special. On every plate we had personalized chocolate bars that were pink. Each of my six brides maids, and my maid- of- honor wrote a poem for me and read it for everyone.

Bed & Bath Shower

Gift Ideas

* Towels
* Sheets
* Comforter
* Shower Curtain
* Blankets
* Bathroom Accessories
* Bath Oils and Soaps

Favor Ideas

* Decorative/scented soaps
* Potpourri

Kitchen Shower Theme
Gift Ideas

* Cookbooks
* Cookware
* Bakeware
* Coffee or Expresso maker
* Breadmaker
* Cutting Boards
* Dish Towels
* Gadgets & Tools

Favor Idea

* Two wooden spoons tied with ribbon

Lingerie Shower Theme

Gift Ideas

* Teddies
* Nightgowns
* Underwear
* Bathrobes

Favor Ideas

* Scented sachets

Home Entertaining Shower Theme

Gift Ideas

* Dinnerware
* Glassware
* Vases
* Candles
* Serving Bowls
* Wine Rack
* Specialty or Gourmet Cookbooks
* Placemats and Napkin Rings

Favor Ideas

* Votive or taper candles

Christmas Theme
Anna, Lewisville, TX

Host a Christmas Shower…this works really well if the wedding date is around Christmas. Have all the guests bring crafts or decorations for the bride and groom. You can also have them throw in one of their favorite Christmas/Holiday time recipes.

Christmas Theme

Everyone brings an ornament that reminds them of the couple along with a Christmas themed gift.

Home Accents Shower
Stacy, Raleigh, NC

My favorite shower was a home accents shower (candles, picture frames, etc). It was hosted by my mom’s best friend, who has a gorgeous pool and deck. It was a champagne brunch with swimsuits being a requirement! It sure was nice floating in the pool for three hours with a mimosa in hand after MONTHS of planning and stress!! No games – just lots of gossiping and laughter!

Jack and Jill Showers
Nancy, TX

Co-ed wedding showers are for both the bride and the groom (sometimes called Jack and Jill showers). We didn’t want to leave any of our friends out by having a female-only shower for me. Entertainment doesn’t have to include shower games; you can have the same type of entertainment you’d have at any other party.

One of our showers was a Sunday brunch, and we ended up playing board games after lunch and the gift-opening. My sister’s co-ed shower was a pool party and barbecue. One of my friend’s co-ed showers had Mexican food; we sat on the back deck and drank margaritas while watching the sun go down. I’ve observed that a mix of sexes usually makes for good conversation and a relaxed atmosphere that I didn’t get at some of the all-female showers I’ve attended.

Also, every co-ed shower I’ve attended didn’t have a specific theme, which made for less pressure for guests to select a gift. Wedding registry information was included on the invitations.

Travel Theme

A “travel” theme is great for couples who travel on a regular basis. Gift options are endless. Picture frames and photo albums are great for pictures taken during their travels. Luggage, backpacks, travel alarm clock, compass, hats, a travel “emergency” kit – sewing kit, first-aid kit, etc., travelers checks, maps, a subscription to a travel related magazine, etc.
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Advice for the Bridal Shower Hostess

Some etiquette experts say that the mother of the bride, mother of the groom or other immediate family members should NOT host the shower. But, today, just about anything goes!

Sometimes it is the Maid of Honor that organizes and plans the shower. Many times both family and friends work together to organize, host and share the cost of the wedding shower. Sometimes where it is held depends more on who has the larger home (for home showers) versus outdated etiquette rules.

Here are a few tips:

* If you are planning to host a shower for the bride, check with other friends and relatives to see if others are also planning to host a shower. You don’t want to invite guests to more than one shower.
* Whether or not the shower is a surprise, you should find out from the bride what she really needs and her color preferences.
* If the shower is a surprise, make sure that the “plan” involves getting her dressed in proper attire. There is nothing more embarrassing for the bride than showing up for her shower in an old pair of shorts and a t-shirt.
* Wedding showers are usually held 2-6 weeks before the wedding. However, if the bride lives out-of-town, it may be necessary to plan it at a different time (i.e. around a holiday or dress fitting) when you know she will definitely be in town.
* A recent trend is that more wedding showers are no longer a surprise. Many times with a bride’s demanding work or travel schedule, it is necessary to let the bride know the date and time ahead of time.

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Closing Prayers

Some prayers which may be used at the close of the ceremony.  If you have a special prayer you’d like to share, we’d love to hear from you.

Lord’s Prayer

An Apache Prayer

Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will shelter each other.
Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there will be no loneliness for you;
Now you are two persons, but there is only one life before you.
Go now to your dwelling place, to enter into the days of your togetherness,
And may your days be good, and long together.

St. Francis Prayer:

God, make ____________ and ____________ a channel of your peace:

That where there is hatred they may bring love;
Where there is hurt they may bring the spirit of forgiveness;
Where there is doubt they may bring faith;
Where there is despair they may bring hope;
Where there is darkness they may bring light;
Where there is sadness they may bring joy.

For it is by giving that they shall receive, by losing that they shall find, by forgiving that they shall be forgiven.

God grant that they seek rather to comfort than to be comforted,
To understand than to be understood,

To love than to be loved.

We invoke thy gentlest blessings, O God, on all true lovers. We thank you for the revealing power of love, which divines in the one beloved the mystic beauty, and glory of humanity. We thank you for the transfiguring power of love, which ripens and ennobles our nature, calling forth the hidden stores of tenderness and strength and, overcomes selfishness by the passion of self-surrender.

May the love of ____________ and ____________ be strong, that no misunderstanding loosen the bond and no passing of the years have the power to dim the light that now glows in them. May they early gain wisdom to discern the true values of life, and may no circumstances take from them the wholesome peace and inward satisfaction which only love can give.

Grant them vision to look beyond this moment to the generations yet to come, and to know that the home they create will be part of the sacred body of humanity in which you dwell, that they may have reverence for others and for themselves, and drink the cup of joy with awe.

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Benediction Prayer

May your days and years to come be filled with the kind of integrity and joy, that will enable you to live through those times ahead which may be tough.
And may your affection for each other grow, thus enriching and strengthening all of us.

Blessed are you, God, Creator of the Universe. Grant the love which unites __________ and __________ may grow in abiding happiness. May there be peace in their home, quietness and confidence in their hearts. May they be sustained in their love by finding a place in their hearts for all people in this world.

Go now in peace in love, and may these things touch your hearts, and be with you through the days of your life together.

May the blessing that rests upon all who love, rest also upon you, and fill you with all spiritual grace. May the bond that unites you ever be strengthened. May you so love and work together in the days that are to come, that your lives will be enriched and ennobled by a true and deepening union of mind and heart.

This is the day which the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.

If any person is in Christ, that person is a new creation; the old has passed away; behold, the new has come.

Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God, and whoever loves is born of God and knows God.

Whom, therefore, God has joined together, let no one put asunder.

The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make His face to shine upon you and be gracious unto you; the Lord lift up His countenance upon you and give you peace, both now and forever. Amen.

The bride and groom kiss.

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Wedding Vows

The mere mention of the word marriage makes you imagine a couple standing at church door exchanging their wedding vows. But are these vows really life long or no, one really doesn’t know. The vow which they exchange is “till death do us part” but it is only after a short period of marriage that their vow show its true colors

Marriage, the most important of earthly relationships can be enjoyed by adventurous people who have the capacity to explore and express their inventions. Marriage is about forming a relationship in which independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal. To be more straightforward it’s easy to get the ticket for marriage but it’s difficult to maintain the vows involved in it. The vows are read only by the celebrant and repeated by the bride and groom. The couple didn’t take the time before the wedding to carefully consider the implications of these vows and whether or not they could keep them until death. Just have a look at a traditional vow:


______, as we stand before both God and man, making public our commitment to one another, I wish to make it known that I recognize first of all God’s authority over my life which is exercised from His loving heart. He has chosen me to be one of his own, and He is now my life. I recognize also that He has blessed me and entrusted to me your life as a free gift that I have not earned. In recognition of these things, ____ I purpose to love you with His love, to provide for your needs through His enablement, and to lead you as He leads me, as long as He give us life together, regardless of the circumstances. As Psalm 34:3 expressed my heart when I asked you to marry me, so it expresses my heart now: “O magnify the Lord with me and let us exalt His name together.”


On this special day, _____, I am reminded of the verse James l:17 which says, “Every good thing bestowed and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of Lights with whom there is no variation or shifting shadow.” With a gift such as you, I know that many new responsibilities face me. In I Corinthians, it explains “It is required of a steward to be found trustworthy.” I cannot do this on my own strength, _______, but by God’s grace and power working within me I desire to be trustworthy as your wife by following your leading submissively, even as unto Christ, loving and serving you in all circumstances as long as He give me life on this earth.

After the wedding ceremony, the festive atmosphere fades away; the food is eaten and guests go home. What is left behind is the wedding vows which have tied the couple together. So, that means they are together till the wedding vows are not broken.

Just keep in mind, what you speak to your fiance on the day of your wedding will be a stepping stone towards the journey of your life. Apart from repeating the set traditional wedding vow, now days what is in is creating your own wedding vow. It is worth noticing that you waste your precious time on material things such as deciding menu etc. and give a backseat to your expression of feelings which could provide a lively touch to your relationship.

Your personalized wedding vow would surely prove worthy of your one true love. This would serve as a medium to show that the personalities of the couples are fully incorporated into their wedding day. Adding your personal feelings to the legal proceedings, you can give an intimacy to your ceremony.

What couples ordinarily feel is that their personalized vows can be more meaningful than traditional vows. Some couples regard traditional vows as chauvinistic. Since they want to lay down the foundation of equality to flower their relationship, it becomes natural for them to become anti-traditional. It is a great idea which includes your thanks to lord, your gratitude to your family and friends, your hopes and dreams and your feelings for each other. It may include your views on commitment and trust. For the couples who believe in personalizing their vows, their vows now don’t have any space for the word “obey” as it is replaced by the word “promise””I promise to love you, comfort and encourage you, to be open and honest with you, and stay with you as long as we both shall live”

Following is an example of a personally written vow:

……., today we make a commitment to one another. I want you to know that you are a precious gift and that you bring so much joy into my life. I affirm the special bond between us, and promise to keep it alive always. I promise to be your confidante, your best friend and to share in your hopes and dreams. In recognition of this, I… take you… to be my husband. With this vow we face new responsibilities together. I will be trustworthy as your wife, and to love you in all circumstances.

Most couples still choose to follow a standard order of service, to exchange wedding vows:

*The Greetings
*The Declaration of intentions
*The Exchange of rings

Take the time to talk with your Officiant and discuss the options you have. This will give you time to plan ahead, write your vows and to become comfortable in reciting them.

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Unique Favor Ideas

My mom and I were at a Craft Fair where a woman made little stained-glass sun-catchers in the shape of doves (which was perfect since I had a dove cake topper!). They were only about $2.00/pc. since I ordered in bulk. We tied monogrammed ribbons where the loop was on top.

To this day, people comment on what wonderful favors we had and how they think of my husband and I every time they look at them! Many keep them in their windows and many put them on their Christmas trees as ornaments! Other shape idea: bells, bride/groom, flowers, cakes, etc.!

Miniature Gift Baskets
Nicola, Chicago IL

As we are getting married in Jamaica and miniature straw market baskets are easy to come by, we are going to order the baskets and have them painted (total of about U.S. $2 each; cheaper if friends do the painting). We’re buying about 4 different varieties of potpourri and filling the baskets with them as a bedding for a variety of items such as Hershey’s hugs and kisses, cues of liquor, packets of seeds etc. Wrap it in cellophane, blow dry and then we’re tying ribbons with our names and the date around the top.

Poker Chips
Melanie, Burnsville, MN

I am getting married in Las Vegas and will be having a reception in my home town. I plan on having chocolate medallions that resemble poker chips and then personalized decks of playing cards. For the cards, I plan on using regular playing cards and covering the box with a wrapper similar to a chocolate bar wrapper. The wrapper will have our wedding picture and the date we were married in Vegas.

Shot Glasses
Tracy, Wexford, PA

We are having shot glasses with our names and wedding date engraved on them. We are going to put two Hershey kisses in each then wrap in netting with a colored bow. We will be giving one to each couple.

Laura, Gainesville, FL

It’s really simple and inexpensive! All you need is a sheet of business cards and magnetic, adhesive backing for business cards (sold at office stores). Print your names, the date of your wedding (and place if desired) onto the business cards, on your computer. Then put the cards on the adhesive and you have magnets!

Personalized Tooth Brushes
Hilary, Sherwood Park, Alberta

At my cousins wedding the favors were great! Both he and his wife are in Dentistry so they decided to have personalized toothbrushes made. Engraved on them were their names and the date of their wedding, then tied to them were two $0.10 candies. I thought it was really neat. Eat the candy then brush your teeth.

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Holiday and Sports Themed Favors

Personalized Golf Tees
Denise, Green Bay, WI

My fiancé and I are golfers, so we had personalized golf tees printed up with our names and wedding date on them and we’re putting them in tulle with chocolate golf balls. The card will read:Fit to a Tee Favor

Now we’re linked;
we’ve stopped puttering ’round
And our lives are fore-ward bound
You’ve joined us to celebrate and filled us with glee
To say thanks, we share this tee
As we go on our married fair way
We’ll always remember this special day.

Golf Balls
Mary, Rockland, MA

My fiancé is in the golf industry and we both share a love for the game. With the increased popularity of golf these days, we thought it would be cute and practical to give out golf balls! We had them printed up with our names and wedding date, had them individually boxed, wrapped in tulle and tied with pearl garland and a couple of tees. They look great and we have a few extras to put in our own golf bags!

Fish Pens
Cristi, Mechanicsville, MD

Michael is an avid fisherman and I am a marine biologist so we found a pen in a corporate promotional catalog that has the end bent around in the shape of a fish. The pen says, “It’s no fish story… Michael and Cristi got hooked! October 9, 1999”. We’re really excited about giving a gift that people will use!

Hockey Pucks
Stacy, Saginaw, MI

My fiancé and I are huge hockey fans. For the balloon weights for the tables I bought real hockey pucks and made labels for the front which had our name and wedding date on them.

Juggling Balls
Linda, Sulphur Springs, TX

My fiancé and I are jugglers as are some of our friends. We are giving juggling balls as favors. A balloon filled with sand inside two more balloons and the last one having our names and wedding date on it. These also double as stress relievers.

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Themed Favors

Wildflower Seeds
Gayla, Bridgewater, NJ

Since my wedding is in May, we decided to give out beautifully packaged wildflower seeds. The seeds contain black-eyed susans, daisies, and other assorted flowers. One side of the seed packet has the actual seeds, while the other side has a beautiful poem written about how “…every year when the flowers bloom, think about your favorite bride and groom”. It is simple, economical, and I am hoping useful.

Sapling Trees
Krista, Salt Lake City, UT

I’m giving little sapling trees for people to take home and plant. They come in tubes, and I will decorate them with raffia ribbon tied around the tubes in my wedding colors. I got them from the department of conservation – they are the ones they use to replant the forests with.

Watering Cans
Linda, Bass Lake, CA

We are having a garden reception. To keep with the theme I am (with help) making favors using flower seed packets. We are placing the seed packets into metal tin watering cans that are approximately 2″ tall. I found theses at various craft stores. With ribbons that we can tie on that have our names and wedding date, we will personalize each one.

Miniature Plant Pots
Becky, Portland, Maine

I had miniature plant pots which had been ‘antiqued’ with gold and silver finishes. They contained miniature plants which I grew in my apartment on a window sill. They were tied with satin ribbon embossed with our names and wedding date. The plants were cheap, the seed packets cost 25 cents each and contained about 20 seeds. The pots were “antiqued” using easy antiquing kits found at an art store, for about $4.00 each. The miniature pots were $5.00 a case (24).

Clear & Green Bottles with Flowers
Katie, NYC

We are getting married on the beach. In keeping with a beachy theme, I am collecting bottles of all shapes and sizes in shades of clear and green. Our florist will be putting wildflowers in the bottles (3-5 bottles per table) and those will be the favors the guests take home.

Seed Packets & Tiny Pots
Corri, McKeesport, PA

We used flower/herb seed packets wrapped in ribbon and tiny flower pots with flowers or ivy already planted.

Flower Bulbs
Diane, Gainesville, FL

I went to an early spring wedding where the flower theme was spring bulbs. The bride and groom gave away individual bulbs wrapped in cellophane and tied with ribbons that matched their wedding colors. The guests could take their bulbs home and plant them, enjoying the flowers at home.

Terra Cotta Pot
Lorelei, Minneapolis MN

I am going to plant an inexpensive flower that matches my colors in a terra cotta pot found at most craft stores. I am painting the pot white or silver and wrapping tulle around the pot and tying a bow at the stem. This is so the flowers can still be seen. I have two ideas the wording of an attached note.

1. All things grow with Love- Lori and Justin
2. Just as a flower blooms and grows, so does the love between family and friends. Thank you for sharing this special day with us. Lori and Justin

It will add color to the tables and guests will take home a practical favor.

Long Stemmed Rose CandleLong Stem Silk Rose
Lisa Anne, Livonia, MI

Each place setting will have a long-stem rose (silk) with ribbon streamers and a tag with our sentiment, names, and wedding date. We are hopeful that our guests will find use for the roses in their own homes. The children’s table will be similarly adorned, only with chocolate roses instead of silk ones.

Michelle, Buffalo, NY

We will be using daises for our wedding flowers. I will make small organza pouches, fill them with daisy seeds, and attach the pouch to a small card with colored ribbon. You could use just about any kind of flower seed you like!

The card reads:
He loves me, he loves me not;
He loves me, we tied the knot!
Scott & Michelle, July 25, 1998

Tulip Bulbs

Try using tulip bulbs in a box tied with ribbons in the same color as your wedding.

Flower Seeds
Jennifer, Cheney, WA

We designed an envelope the size of a seed packet with a design made from Microsoft Word and filled the envelopes with wildflower seeds. We included an instruction paper and put it inside the envelope reading, “Spread the seeds of our love with us.” Perfect for a garden theme wedding. Inexpensive too when you make the envelopes yourself.

Diana, Reading, PA

We are having our ceremony in a rose garden and wanted to go natural. We are going to use teacups that have a small houseplant in them as our favors… something to remind them of how our love has grown.

Decoupaged Glass Plates
Stacey, Streetsboro, OH

I was able to find glass plates from a Dollar Store for 3/$1.00. I decoupaged a torn piece of paper with “Love” written on it to the back, then sponged gold paint over the whole plate. They looked fabulous, were very cheap and had all the guests thinking they were taking $30.00 plates home!

Victorian Fans
Pat, Portland, Me

For my daughter’s August Victorian wedding, we are making fans out of old wallpaper sample books. We fold the sheet in half, then fan-fold them, put a thin strip of tape around the bottom and tie a matching thin ribbon into a bow. On some designs that are rather plain, we’ve glued halves of paper doilies onto the folded wallpaper sheet. You’d be surprised how beautiful some rather old fashioned gaudy print looks when made into a fan! We will give them out at the church, since it is not air conditioned.

Bud Vases
Leila, Yona, Guam

I have a bud vase with a special poem imprinted on it along with our names and date of marriage on the bottom. It is kind of expensive, but gets our point across.
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Beverage Favors

Coffee Mug
Lori, New Jersey

I found a company that will put our names and wedding date on a coffee mug. The mug is white with brown writing (the color of my bridesmaids dresses). I bought instant Cappuccino packets for $10.00 for 32 packets. I also plan on wrapping Hershey kisses in tulle and putting them in the mug! Each favor will cost less than $2.00!

Miniature Champagne Bottles
Kathy, Bradley Beach, NJ

We gave each couple and each single guest a small bottle of champagne. The bottles of champagne had tuxedos on, and on the back we printed our names and wedding date with a gold paint pen. Also, since my husband is a firefighter, we used small fire chief hats with a card that read “chief” and printed every one’s name and table number on them.

Chocolate Covered Coffee Beans
Stephanie and Doug, Waterloo, NY

We are both coffee lovers – we are putting chocolate covered coffee beans into small gold boxes tied with ribbon and a note that says: “The Perfect Blend – Stephanie & Doug 10/9/99”

Corkscrew FavorsMini Wine Bottles
Anna, Austin, TX

We’re giving away miniature wine bottles (they fill one glass of wine), and making our own labels. The labels are our engagement portrait, scanned into the computer. Designed around the picture, are our names, wedding date, and ingredients (love, honesty, friendship, etc.) and the names of the wedding party. The labels are printed on sticky paper by a graphics store. We bought the bottles from the our local grocery store – 4 bottles in a box for $4.69 of Gallo Chardonnay. We spent around $50 printing the labels (175). One note: be sure and get your photographer to sign a waiver of the copyright – we added “Photography courtesy of…” on the label.

Coffee Mug
Barbara, Cape Coral, Florida

For my daughter’s wedding I ordered white coffee mugs with the bride’s and groom’s name and wedding date imprinted on them in the color of her attendants’ dresses. They also have a rose imprinted on them in the same color since rose is her motif. I am making raspberry chocolate coffee spoons enclosed in glassine wrappers tied with a lavender ribbon.

Personalized Sodas
Stacey, Madison, Wisconsin

We are ordering personalized sodas! We both love Cream Soda, so we found a company that bottles personalized orders. The labels will have our names and our wedding date on them! Total cost is about $100 for 100 bottles!

Homemade Beer
Aimee, Piscataway, NJ

My fiancé will be home brewing beer for our favors! I’ll be using my computer to design and print out labels. We’ll cover the top of each bottle with gold foil and tie them with ivory ribbon (our wedding colors). The favors will be a true example of our teamwork! Since he already has the brewing equipment, it will cost us about $1.50 each (ingredients, bottle, cap, and decorations). I cannot wait for our families and friends to enjoy his brew!

Amy, Leesburg, VA

We are having a January wedding and both of us love coffee. So, we are having individual bags of flavored coffee and a chocolate dipped spoon for each guest. Just wrap in tulle and ribbon!! We have a friend that got us the favors at cost, since he is the owner of a coffee shop. But they retail for about $3 per person.

Read more Favor Ideas:

* Unique Favors
* Candle Favors
* Floral Favors

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