Selecting a Flower Girl

You may choose one or two little girls to be the flower girl(s). The best age range is between four and eight. The younger they are the more of a challenge. It is a very special honor however, for children to be a part of your wedding.

In Advance

*Flower girls should attend the shower and may attend other pre-wedding parties.

*It is a must that they attend the rehearsal and may attend the rehearsal dinner with their families.

The Wedding

*Flower girls walk directly in front of the bride in the processional and in front of the maid of honor in the recessional.

*As flower girls walk down the aisle, they may scatter flower or rose petals. If petals are not permitted, sometimes flower girls will hand out single flowers to guests as they walk, or they may just carry a bouquet, a ring of flowers or a pomander ball.

*During the ceremony, flower girls may stand near the bridesmaids or may sit with their families. Those who are younger probably will do better sitting with their families.

*The flower girl is always in the formal photographs along with the bridal party.

The Reception

*Flower girls do not stand in the reception line.

*The flower girl usually sits at a table with their family rather than at the head table.


*Families of the flower girl are expected to pay for dresses and other attire.

*The flower girl’s family is also responsible for additional travel costs.

*Flower girls are not expected to bring a gift to pre-wedding parties they may attend. If their parents attend, gift expectations would be the same as any other guest. If they attend more than one shower or party, only one shower gift is expected.


*It is very easy for children to get fussy. To insure that everything goes smoothly have the flower girl wear comfortable shoes and clothes.

*NO SUGAR should be allowed before the ceremony. Children can get very hyper and hard to control when they are loaded up on sweets. More Tips for Dealing with Children In Weddings.

*Keep the flower girl calm by resisting the urge to “hype” up her role. Play games with her or tell her stories as you are waiting to walk down the aisle.

*Don’t forget to show your appreciation to your flower girl by giving them a small gift to commemorate the event.